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In Memoriam |
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LCpl.
Steven Stacy
(reprinted from
TheWorldLink.com, July 9, 2007)
CB family mourns death of Marine
COOS BAY - Last Thursday, just after noon in the
Middle East, a bullet cut through the air in Iraq and pierced the
neck of 23-year-old Lance Cpl. Steven A. Stacy.
Soldiers bolted to the aid of the U.S. Marine Corps rifleman and
2003 graduate of Marshfield High School.
They rushed him to a medic.
But it was too late.
Stacy, who was shot about 6 miles northeast of Fallujah, was on his
first tour of duty and had been in the theater of war for about
three weeks.
Within seven hours of Stacy's death, Marines from Eugene were
standing at the T.J. Shaws restaurant in downtown Coos Bay
delivering the bad news to 47-year-old Dana Potts, a waitress there.
Her son was dead.
Stacy, an infantryman in the 1st Marines, 3rd Battalion, also known
as the “Thundering Third,” was known to many diving enthusiasts in
the Bay Area as “Scuba Steve” due to his years of employment at
Sunset Sports in the Pony Village Mall.
Stacy will receive a full military burial Saturday, July 14, at
Sunset Memorial Gardens.
It was Stacy's love of diving, plus confusion about what he wanted
to do with his life, that ultimately led him to enlist. Dana Potts
said her son hoped to scuba dive in some of the places the Marine
Corps would ultimately take him - Singapore, Thailand and Kuwait.
“Scuba diving was his passion,” she said.
While he never did get a chance to scuba dive in the military,
43-year-old Chris Stevens, who was among Stacy's best friends, said
his buddy did get to snorkel in some exotic spots. The two, friends
since the late 1990s, kept in contact after Stacy enlisted in
November of 2005.
“He always had a passion for his country and our military and he
really believed in what he was fighting for,” Stevens said. “He
believed in his country.”
Both Potts, and his stepfather, Robert Potts - who helped raise
Stacy since about the fourth grade - said Stacy always wanted to be
in the military. They were glad he joined, but nervous he chose to
be a rifleman.
“He told us that was the best decision he ever made - even if he
never came back from Iraq,” his mother said. “That that was the best
thing in the world he ever had done.”
Her husband agreed.
“It turned him into a man,” he said.
Over the weekend, a steady stream of relatives and other visitors
streamed to the Potts' home on 15th Street in Coos Bay to comfort
the family and swap stories about Stacy. He had three sisters,
Crystal McDonald of Coos Bay, April Smith of Eugene and 13-year-old
Hallie who lives with Dana and Robert. His biological father,
Stanley Stacy lives in Albany.
Like many from the South Coast, Stacy enjoyed deer hunting near
Dellwood, fishing for steelhead on the East Fork of the Millicoma
River and just being in the outdoors, family members said.
But it was scuba diving that he truly enjoyed. Stevens said the two
often went to the Siuslaw River to gander at the crab hole. One of
Stacy's favorite dive spots was outside Charleston at a place simply
referred to as “No. 1.”
After high school, Stacy worked several different jobs, from an aide
for the mentally and physically disabled to drywalling, to working
on a 100-foot guide yacht that toured Glacier Bay in Alaska.
“He would try anything,” Robert Potts said.
Dana said her son had been training in Kuwait since early June.
Sometimes he called her a few times a day, and at other times there
were long periods of no communication. And then, about three weeks
ago, Stacy told his mom he soon would be heading across the
Kuwait-Iraqi border.
“We never heard from him again after he crossed into Iraq,” Dana
Potts said. Robert recalled Stacy saying he was proud to serve, but
also scared. While both he and Dana were afraid, too, they tried not
to dwell on it too much.
“You can't put that in your head always,” Robert said. “You just
say: ‘He will be home.'”
The last time Stacy was home was last Christmas. His mother said he
was home for about 10 days. He spent most of his time with his
friends and spent the holiday in Tangent with relatives.
Everyone noticed a change in him, his mother said.
“The Marine Corps really did wonders for him,” she said, noting he
was socking away money to go to college and talking of transferring
to the U.S. Navy to become a medic.
Jason Hayes, who worked with Stacy at Sunset Sports for about six
months several years ago, said that at the time Stacy didn't seem to
have any direction for his life.
“I'm 30. I could really see myself in him at that age,” Hayes said.
The two bumped into one another around Christmastime in a video
store.
“I looked at him and I didn't register it was him,” Hayes said.
But Stacy came up and said hi. Hayes was impressed. Standing before
him was a clean-cut, well put-together young man. He said Stacy
first apologized for not having been a positive person to be around
when they worked together. They talked, and Hayes saw a different
young man.
“He said, ‘I really found my thing.' You could see in his eyes - he
did,” Hayes said.
Stacy discussed boot camp, Hayes recalled. He talked about his
military future and his desire to go to Iraq.
“It's such a sad thing to hear that happened,” Hayes said of Stacy's
death.
Dana Potts said she didn't recall her son ever having a steady
girlfriend, but that he had a lot of friends who were girls.
“Everybody loved Steve,” Dana said. “He had super high-respect for
women. He would say that's why he doesn't have a girlfriend: ‘They
all think I'm their best friend.'”
She remembers getting on him about his long gold locks of hair - a
phase he went through.
“He always said: ‘The chicks dig 'em.'”
And he hoped one day to get married and have kids.
“He wanted to find that one person,” Dana said. “He always had this
passion to find the right person and get married, settle down and
have kids. He wanted the regular American life.”
Now his family and friends will come together to try and find a way
to keep going - without him. His mother said she will miss his big
smile. His friends will miss him picking up the tab, and trying to
crack them up.
“He had a lot more life to live,” Robert Potts said.
- City Editor Elise Hamner contributed to this story.