"What [the website] provides is a place to join together virtually and share
his ability to touch people's lives. To realize how unfortunate his death
was and not just accept but understand and see that there are a lot of war
veterans out there who are in a lot of pain."
Hurt and questions veil Sean Coyle's eyes. Three months out from the
stunning death of his spiritual and Marine mentor, Sean is a long way from
resolved.
Instead, inspired.
He has, like Father Dennis had, a knowing grin, a charming sincerity and
striking intellegence. However being left to carry a legacy was the last
thing Sean would have expected.
He knew Father Dennis was struggling. He knew Father Dennis had little true
understanding from either of the two worlds he straddled: the Corps and the
Church. One thought he couldn't be treated like an average Marine. The other
thought he couldn't be treated like an average priest. They were both wrong.
And right.
Still, leaving Father Dennis to fall in the chasm between those communities
was a sin on the leadership of each, one both are surely regretting more as
the days pass.
Father Dennis suffered extraordinary trauma, emotional and physical while a
Marine. This was a priceless asset to the Corps. He truly could comfort the
combat warrior like few, if any, other trusted leaders.
He sacrificed family for the Church. This was priceless in comforting the
worst of parishioner's heartbreak, losing a loved one. He knew what letting
go of an intended bride, of hopefully his own children, and being separated
from parents and siblings, felt like.
Sean knows what was lost when Father Dennis cut his pain short. Because he
lived at the rectory in Blackstone after a medical matter kept him from
finishing OCS - axing a dream to put his 20/10 vision to good purpose flying
Marine aircraft. And before that because Father Dennis picked up the baton
when Sean left the guidance of the Benedictine Monks he resided with while
attending a high school away from his childhood home in Boston. Father
Dennis knew that Abbot and gladly offered guidance as Sean completed boot
camp at Parris Island.
Now a firefighter with
Boston's Ladder 19 in South Boston, Sean is led strongly by the sense of
compassion instilled by a brave lone-wolf of a priest. Not that Sean feels
obligated. He just can't allow Father Dennis' endless font of warmth and
kindness evaporate. Too many lives were changed. Too many lives were saved.
A young man of just 35, he has a plan. His site is the archive: the stories
of parishioners and Marines who were improved for the knowing. Then will
come the book, collections of these testimonies illustrated though the
father's biography. Then a suicide prevention foundation fueled by Sean's
intolerance for more such wasted God-given, sacrificing, enemy-conquering
passion.
Sean would not be online without the invaluable web development of former
Marine Ken Palmer of Branson, MO. Not only has Ken provided the original
site design and development, his constant updates with new comments,
remembrances and photos makes the site an evolution.
Constant contact and guidance from Father Dennis' nephew, David Katinas, who
bears a striking resemblance to his uncle, also allows Sean the earthly
comfort of seeing his mentor, even if only via kinship.
This Christmas season even saw a care-package campaign, one started by
Father Dennis years ago. Sean collected names of deployed Marines and funds
for packages, and delivered. A recent response from donor Karen Stefanik
read, "I
am so amazed at what a wonderful thing you are doing to honor Fr. Dennis and
to help support our service people!!!"
Sean's faith will aid his work here, but ultimately he knows that God's hand
guides him to help his brothers in arms.
"I want to create a foundation where we can pool resources and create a
network of all those wishing to help address PTSD and suicide awareness and
ultimately change the way veteran's PTSD is treated and ultimately prevent
other suicides."