MarinesAndTrauma.com
A resource for Marines et al


A CorpsStories.com Project

Marine Corps Emblem

Sean P. Coyle, Founder
FrDennisRocheford.org

Christmas 2009

Marine Corps Emblem

< Part One

Following the Father's Lead
(Part two)

"What [the website] provides is a place to join together virtually and share his ability to touch people's lives. To realize how unfortunate his death was and not just accept but understand and see that there are a lot of war veterans out there who are in a lot of pain."

- Sean Coyle

Hurt and questions veil Sean Coyle's eyes. Three  months out from the stunning death of his spiritual and Marine mentor, Sean is a long way from resolved.

Instead, inspired.

He has, like Father Dennis had, a knowing grin, a charming sincerity and striking intellegence. However being left to carry a legacy was the last thing Sean would have expected.

He knew Father Dennis was struggling. He knew Father Dennis had little true understanding from either of the two worlds he straddled: the Corps and the Church. One thought he couldn't be treated like an average Marine. The other thought he couldn't be treated like an average priest. They were both wrong. And right.

Still, leaving Father Dennis to fall in the chasm between those communities was a sin on the leadership of each, one both are surely regretting more as the days pass.

Father Dennis suffered extraordinary trauma, emotional and physical while a Marine. This was a priceless asset to the Corps. He truly could comfort the combat warrior like few, if any, other trusted leaders.

He sacrificed family for the Church. This was priceless in comforting the worst of parishioner's heartbreak, losing a loved one. He knew what letting go of an intended bride, of hopefully his own children, and being separated from parents and siblings, felt like.

Sean knows what was lost when Father Dennis cut his pain short. Because he lived at the rectory in Blackstone after a medical matter kept him from finishing OCS - axing a dream to put his 20/10 vision to good purpose flying Marine aircraft. And before that because Father Dennis picked up the baton when Sean left the guidance of the Benedictine Monks he resided with while attending a high school away from his childhood home in Boston. Father Dennis knew that Abbot and gladly offered guidance as Sean completed boot camp at Parris Island.

Now a firefighter with Boston's Ladder 19 in South Boston, Sean is led strongly by the sense of compassion instilled by a brave lone-wolf of a priest. Not that Sean feels obligated. He just can't allow Father Dennis' endless font of warmth and kindness evaporate. Too many lives were changed. Too many lives were saved.

A young man of just 35, he has a plan. His site is the archive: the stories of parishioners and Marines who were improved for the knowing. Then will come the book, collections of these testimonies illustrated though the father's biography. Then a suicide prevention foundation fueled by Sean's intolerance for more such wasted God-given, sacrificing, enemy-conquering passion.

Sean would not be online without the invaluable web development of former Marine Ken Palmer of Branson, MO. Not only has Ken provided the original site design and development, his constant updates with new comments, remembrances and photos makes the site an evolution.

Constant contact and guidance from Father Dennis' nephew, David Katinas, who bears a striking resemblance to his uncle, also allows Sean the earthly comfort of seeing his mentor, even if only via kinship.

This Christmas season even saw a care-package campaign, one started by Father Dennis years ago. Sean collected names of deployed Marines and funds for packages, and delivered. A recent response from donor Karen Stefanik read, "I am so amazed at what a wonderful thing you are doing to honor Fr. Dennis and to help support our service people!!!"

Sean's faith will aid his work here, but ultimately he knows that God's hand guides him to help his brothers in arms.

"I want to create a foundation where we can pool resources and create a network of all those wishing to help address PTSD and suicide awareness and ultimately change the way veteran's PTSD is treated and ultimately prevent other suicides."

< Part One

1